Question from you (theoretically): Why are you getting married in California, when about 90% of your family members are in New York?
Answer (from us): We live in Northern California for a reason: because we love it. And we want you to love it too. So hopefully, with maximum enjoyment and minimal expense, we can share with you the rolling golden hills, big old Pacific ocean, delicious food and drink, and even the chilly fog that have made us set up shop here for so long.
Q: When should we fly in?
A: While we'd love for everyone to take off work and spend the whole week with us, we realize that isn't feasible for most. If you fly in early in the week, we'll get to squire you around San Francisco and show you our favorite places. If you fly in Wednesday, you'll be able to join Thursday's wine country tour. If you fly Thursday, you've got some time to settle in before the official festivities kick off. If you're flying in Friday, expect for it to take about 2.5 hours to get from the airport to Sonoma - summer traffic can be tough on a Friday afternoon.
Q: We'd like to make a vacation of it! What should we do?
A: Good for you! Northern California is absolutely dreamy, and there are endless possibilities. Take a look at our Bay Area Guide for detailed recommendations in San Francisco and wine country. We're wine club members at Castello di Amorosa, which is a crazy 13th century castle in Napa, and we love spending the day at the Coppola Winery pool in Sonoma. If you're up for renting a car and venturing a bit further afield, we recommend Yosemite National Park to the east and Big Sur to the south. You can't go wrong.
Q: Can I bring a guest?
A: In keeping with Miss Manners, we attempted to address all invitations clearly. We did our best to consider all our guests and whether they would be bringing their partner. If you think we made an error (our bad!) please let us know before you RSVP.
Q: What about bringing kids?
A: Your kiddos are welcome if you want to bring them (Mike's nephews will be there!), and it should be clear from your invitation that that's the case. If you think you'll want an onsite babysitter, let us know and we'll put likeminded parents in touch.
Q: Your dress code description isn't very helpful. Can you be a bit more specific?
A: We can try. We don't have firm expectations for what we believe our guests should wear. You know best what makes you both comfortable and festive. We discourage denim halter tops and platforms with goldfish in the heels, but honestly, we love you and just want you to be happy. The most important thing is to make sure you're prepared for both hot and cool weather, and that you can dance without discomfort if you so choose. Most guests will likely be wearing things like nice summer dresses and slacks with buttondowns. There will likely be ties and suit jackets, and probably some very pretty but impractical heels.